No, they don`t have to be. It`s our choice. But...as individuals making up a whole.
Therefore it`s actually your choice.
If you wonder: Should I ask her out?
You don`t have to make it too convoluted.
You shouldn`t use the excuse, that it`s not up to you, but everyone. Because that`s what you do when you ask, why is it necessary for everything to be so hard (thihihihihi...hard...).
But...if you do ask that...and so many others do too...it means that we DO make things overly complicated.